I am a gay and i want a boyfriend
Schrödinger’s Closet
Dear Prudence,
My daughter and her boyfriend are both openly bisexual. We adore him, and their bond seems to be occupied of genuine affection. They are each other’s top friends, and I literally saw him step in front of a moving car to pull her to safety. All nice, right? Well, he comes from a strict religious tradition. I grew up in this tradition too, so I’m familiar with it, and I perceive just how insidious the worldview is and how hard it is to throw off. It’s extremely homophobic: The only acceptable life is to be straight, marry, and contain children, preferably while young.
Recently, I learned that they’ve never had sex. My daughter’s perfectly willing but he is not. They have been together for three years. We inhabit in a part of the country where a lot of people remunerate lip service to premarital virginity. You can probably guess my worry. I think my daughter represents a road to a conventional life that he’s always envisioned. I grasp he wants children. I am petrified that in the future (maybe after marriage and kids) he will realize that he’s not bisexual, he’s male lover, and that he has locked himself into a life that isn’t right. I’ve seen this educate wreck b
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Is it Time to Become Boyfriends?
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I’m a queer young woman. I also have a boyfriend.
Words by Steph (she/her), 21 TAS
I’m a bisexual woman and I have a long-term male partner.
Despite bisexuality being the most common sexuality in the LGBTQIA+/queer community (GLAAD), bisexual people (like me) are still questioned and misunderstood often. When I tell someone I’m homosexual, they ask if I have a girlfriend. When I tell someone I have a partner, they assume it’s a boyfriend.
It’s pretty common for lgbtq+ folk to experience people assuming their partner is of a different gender to them. Assuming everyone is – by default – heterosexual, is called heteronormativity, and it’s prevalent in many more areas of everyday life. For example, when people travel to the doctor, it is often assumed that the only sexual action they could be doing is penetrative sex, with someone of a unlike gender. Or if you have ever been wedding shopping, you would realize that the overwhelming majority of wedding paraphernalia is designed for “Mrs. and Mr.”
Thankfully, heteronormativity is entity challenged more and more in recent years, with many people in culture becoming more accepting and aware of the universe of queer people.
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