How do i know my friend is gay
How Do I Help My Gay Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How do I help my gay friend?” This is a question we perceive constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago few Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as same-sex attracted or deals with a measure of same gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of being where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this ask is of utmost importance in light of the change of our identity and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly converse about their issues. So how does one aid a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend know Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to help a friend deal with her sexual attractions. This is because there are two different ro
When Your Best Friend Tells You He's Gay
Gay people are engaged in an ongoing struggle to hold their rights recognized and respected. As a unbent person talking primarily to other straights. I dream to support all who are oppressed because of their sexual orientation. The focus on gay men as opposed to lesbians is only a reflection of my personal knowledge.
A year ago, no one I knew was openly gay. My contact with homosexuality until then was probably quite standard. When I was seven, my mother talked to me about people called "fairies." She warned me to watch out for them, explaining that their being alive was a pity for them and a nuisance for the rest of us. From then on, the issue was absent from conversation at house, except when something about Anita Bryant came on the news. We all regarded Anita as somewhat off the wall, but not out of any deeply felt views on homosexuality. At school, the words "gay" and "fag" were used only as insults to students so awkward or unpopular that the term "wimp" would not do. Homosexuality was spotlighted only once: when the women's studies class invited a lesbian to speak and half the parents called up to complain.
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I have a similar situation with my partnership. My boyfriends gay ally is inLove with him and he doesn&#;t understand that. there is so many things that build me realize that.
1 they see each other once a week to brew in a bar, when they do and earn drunk, my boyfriends queer friend starts complementing him in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in love eyes. start making inappropriate joke
2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my boyfriend and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying DOESNT HE LOOK LIKE HIM???
3 he told my partner that he heard that i was dating one of his friends a couple of times( guy that I don&#;t even know). obviously lies.. don&#;t know what was exactly his intention.
4 he invited my boyfriend first to an island and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my lover didn&#;t go.
5 he always pays for everything, dinner, uber, all the liquid in the bar ( most of the time).
My longtime friend and colleague Dr. Joe Kort has been treating and writing about gender and sexual orientation issues for nearly three decades. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, exercise, Joe specializes in Queer Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, often treating men who are questioning their sexual orientation. This population is the emphasize of his new and much-needed book: Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men. I am pleased that Joe has written this book, as I have had to deal with these questions in my own practice relatively often, as have many other therapists. I recently spoke with Joe about the book, and I wanted to share a few of his thoughts below.
What prompted you to write this book?
There are two main reasons. Number one is the tall incidence of male-female couples entering my office because the woman thinks her man might be queer . More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been looking at gay porn or he’s been having sex with men.
Number two is that I wanted to write this book for the men themselves because they’re usually very bewildered. A lot of t
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